Or, how to leave Austin and love living far away in a small town.

I can’t say I’ve mastered it. Or, that I’m close to loving the small town The Professor and I moved to. But, there are things about it that I do love. And many things I like.

Moving away from Austin wasn’t my first choice. Or second. However, it was the best choice we had at the time. The novelty of the move wore off about 6 months into it — 5 of those months being cold and cloudy. Then, the permanence of the move hit me like a snow shovel. In the head.

After which came the complaining.

There’s no good coffee shop. None. Don’t these people know what a grocery store is supposed look like? Where’s my big, blue sky?  Mexican food — forget it. When does the sun shine? In July? When will I get to turn on my air conditioner?

Then the comparing. It’s when I compare Austin with the small town we live in. And you can guess which place wins my comparison competition every time.

The sun shines about 500% more in Austin than it does here. The drivers are friendlier in Austin. The produce is fresher. The Austin running club has soul; the one here …  Blah blah blah.

It’s definitely not the way to win friends.

Somehow I misplaced the mindset I came here with: that life’s an exciting and fun adventure; enjoy it!

Knowing my thoughts and behavior weren’t serving me, and were most likely off-putting to other people, I decided to come up with some rules to survive a move from a cool city to a small town. After all, I’ll be here for at least several more years.

 

Use the rubber band technique to quit yer complain' and comparin'

Then I thought these are rules that can apply to just about any change in life! Follow these rules and you won’t just survive, you’ll blossom.

4 Rules You Must Follow to Survive Change

  1. Quit complaining. Just quit. Period. You won’t be able to stop overnight, so wear a rubber band on your wrist, and when the whining begins, snap the band. Ouch! It’s reminder to quit yer complainin’!
  2. Be positive. Every morning and every evening write down one thing — just one thing — you love, like or appreciate about your new situation. You can find them. They are right in front of you. Even little things like the colorful tulips that pop up overnight. Or, how the bakery on Main Street is right out of 1961 and oh so cool!
  3. Be patient. Time goes slowly in a small town. It feels like it anyway. Enjoy it. When you’ve made a big switch in your life, it’s natural to want everything to fit into place right away. It won’t happen on your timeline. Enjoy the process and practice patience.
  4. Stop comparing. It’s deadly. Women, especially, are good at making comparisons that end up making us feel like crap. It’s a waste. If you find yourself doing it, see #1 and use rubber band technique.

I know there will come a day when I have to leave this town. And I probably won’t want to because I’ll have fallen in love with it and its people. I’ll just have to tell myself: Life’s an exciting and fun adventure; enjoy it!

What about you? Do you have some change survival methods? Please do tell!

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4 Ways Not to Run a Race

by LeavingAustin

My Newton's helped me get my PR!

Last weekend The Professor and I ran in the Charlottesville Half Marathon race. Held in Charlottesville, Virginia, home to Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello and the University of Virginia, it was a hilly course in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains.

The sky was full of dense cloud cover, so we didn’t see any mountains, but the course was beautiful! We ran through the downtown area, UVA and then out to curvy, country roads.

Since it was April, I didn’t think I needed to bring gloves. Wrong. My hands were freezing the entire race. Maybe that was a good thing. I ended up with a PR – Personal Record — even with all the hills.

I thought I could beat The Professor. After all, I trained more than he did. Wrong. We stayed together until just after Mile 9 — right after I went off the side of the road, around a stone wall and peed. The Professor was my lookout, and when I was done, he took off. Finished 3 minutes before me.

Talking about peeing outside is about as potty mouth as I’m gonna get here. Although both The Professor and I were using 4-letter vocab words during the first half of the race because it was the worst run race we’d ever ran. And that had nothing to do with us.  At first we thought,

Gosh, don’t they know how to run races in Virginia? But then we ran a race in Virginia Beach a few years ago, and it ran like a machine. Of course, that was run by the Rock n Roll people who, except for sky-high race fees, have Wal-Marted the whole race experience.

These Charlottesville race organizers screwed almost everything up. I guess it didn’t help that they had the word ‘Bad’ in their company name. They sure lived up to it.  Wonder if they ever heard of “thoughts become things“? Because they really were bad to the bone.

Instead of complaining, I decided I’m gonna stay real positive here and let race organizers know about some of the things to take care of during a race…like the people who have paid you money!

4 Ways To Run A Race

  1. Packet Pickup –  Actually keep track of the people who have signed up and sent you money. Be nice to the people you hire to work the packet pickup area, and maybe they’ll be nice to the racers.
  2. Port-A-Potty’s – It’s a good idea to have more than 2 along the route. There was a lot of fertilizing going on along the country roads in Charlottesville last weekend. And I mean a lot!
  3. Music — At the beginning of the run, while the racers are waiting for the gun to go off, at least bring your boom box from home and set it at max volume. It gets the energy going! I think in just about every race I’ve done in Austin and anywhere in Texas, there’s not only loud music, but the Star Spangled Banner is played and then everyone takes off! It helps to start off with a fun and party-like atmosphere and remind people what country they’re running in.
  4. Community — Make friends with community groups and engage volunteers. That’s how you get folks along the side of the road cheering on the runners. We runners who pay your race fees appreciate that. Crowd support was weak in Charlottesville. Whoops. Sorry about that I wasn’t supposed to go negative here, but I really don’t understand why Runners World called it one of the best new marathons in the U.S.

The Professor and I were lucky to have Race Friend #1 on the East Coast in Charlottesville. She got up with us at 4 in the morning and drove us to the start area. She even went to get our packets the day before — but they couldn’t find The Professor — so we had to get there extra early on race day to stand in another line. And then once we got to the front of the line, they wanted us to wait until the line behind us was served. Uh oh. Gotta watch myself getting negative again. Race Friend #1 was there at the finish line cheering us in. We did a very Austin-like thing when we got back to her house: made migas!

 

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Yes, there is life after Starbucks and Whole Foods.

While I can get along without the Starbucks, the Austin sunsets are another matter.

The thing about living in Austin: you get spoiled.

Actually in Austin, there are tons better coffee shops than Starbucks. There is a coffee shop to satisfy almost every personality and taste in Austin. I had set up my office in several of them, along with the thousands of other entrepreneurs in Austin.

I only mention Starbucks because there is no Starbucks in the town where I live now. In fact, there are no Starbucks in the next town over! I must travel 20 minutes to get to a Starbucks, which is really the best coffee shop anywhere near here. But driving 20 minutes for a Starbucks? Sounds crazy and isn’t really worth it. So I turn my home into a coffee shop.

And then there are the grocery stores. Whole Foods was born in Austin. Then came Central Market. Shortly before I left a new one, Sprouts,  popped up. You can get just about any type of fruit, veggie, cheese, meat…in fact you start to feel like you deserve it. All the time. Anytime. Organic this and free range that. Neals Yard cheeses. Yum.

It can turn you into a grocery store snob.

I admit it. The Professor and I came to this tiny little town on the East Coast and the local grocery store can’t even spell cilantro correctly!

What kind of cilantro is this?

So I started driving an hour to Whole Foods or Trader Joe’s. Grocery store snobbishness got the better of me.

I came to my senses and started looking around my backyard. Left the snob in the parking lot and found a store, that while it’s no Whole Foods, it will suffice for most things. Except tortillas. They are like cardboard.

 

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I Am Not A Mommy Blogger

March 29, 2011

Or am I? If those two could speak, they would call me Mom. The way it is today, they say almost nothing, and I anticipate all their needs. Isn’t that a Mom? Gracie, too, would call me Mom, but she doesn’t need to. There’s always food, treats, water and lovin’. Plus she is allowed on [...]

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Whaddya Staring At?

March 27, 2011

Yesterday The Professor and I went for a long run. 11 miles on a cold and somewhat windy day in March! Geez when does it warm up around here? If I had known it would be freezing – and we had to dodge ice patches on the road — at the end of March, I [...]

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Drive Friendly The Texas Way

December 30, 2010

No, it doesn’t necessarily mean go the speed limit. I’d say the majority of Texans speed. You can still be friendly and speed. It does mean, however, that you don’t get on my a#%, honk the horn whenever you feel like it, move in and out of traffic without using your signal. Houstonians complain about [...]

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We Left Austin – Again

December 22, 2010

After taking up domicile in Houston for a year (and taking a sabbatical from this blog), we came back to Austin for the hot summer. In mid-August the moving truck pulled up once again. This time we’ll be gone for 4 or 5 years. Maybe more. Who knows, we may fall in love with the [...]

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Things We Keep In Our Garage

August 10, 2009

Quite a few years ago, when I was in high school, I took found these apple crates on the side of the road in Syria, Virginia. I sanded and stained them and used them to store my record albums (see post below). I don’t remember when I last used them for albums, but they’ve held [...]

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Downsizing: Where Will the Animals Eat?

August 6, 2009

Even Wigwam,Fluffy and Gracie will be affected by the downsizing from the Austin house  to Houston apartment. We haven’t figured out yet how to consolidate their dining area. Kitten Dining Area in Austin

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Downsizing: 9 Drawers to 1 Drawer

August 5, 2009

My favorite food writer at the New York Times, Mark Bittman, wrote a piece  last December preparing me for the downsizing to come.  It was entitled: So Your Kitchen is Tiny. So What? The premise of the article is that it doesn’t matter how large your kitchen is or how many gadgets you have. It’s [...]

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